Letting Go of the Past

There are so many things that we don’t really understand until we go through them ourselves. I never understood people who kept holding on to their past because I found it easy to let go and move on. I always said that I had a gift of goodbyes – God asked me to let go of so many people that now, when God says let go, I just do it without questions asked.

But there are some circumstances that hit differently, something I didn’t experience before until a couple of years ago. Some situations wound you deeply, and that’s when it’s not that easy to move on. Something traumatic like the loss of someone close to you, a broken relationship, divorce, failure or betrayal. You sit in the pain, keep going back to it and keep holding on to it like you have nothing else to hold on to and can’t move on.

For me, it was church hurt. I was very involved in my previous church, from leading worship, social media, intercession to evangelism or anything else that was needed, and then I was deeply wounded in the church. I was so heartbroken that I struggled to go to church, and eventually, I asked God for permission to leave, and He allowed me to go. I wanted to quickly find a new church because I knew people who left the church and then didn’t want to go back, and I didn’t want to be that person, but I also didn’t want to get involved in the church in any way, just take the time to heal.

One of my biggest fears when leaving the church was having to start over, but it almost felt like I never left the church. In God’s mercy, it felt like I was picked up from the place where I was and not from the start again. But I really didn’t want to serve in the church, so I didn’t join any team. It’s funny because I was in a new church for over a year, and one day the Holy Spirit told me, “I am bringing you back to the church.” You can be present but not really there, and thank God He restored my passion for the church. I am excited to go to church again rather than going out of need.

I am sharing this because I believe that God will be bringing many people out of their painful situations and out of their caves, where they will be restored to be themselves again, where they will be healed again, where they can breathe again, where they can function again, where they can dream again and where they can fulfil their destiny. It may have been painful, it may have been long, but one thing is for sure: God was with you through it all.

Let me share what I have learned along the way.

If you are not sure if you are tied to your past, the best way to know is if you can’t stop going back to the situation, can’t stop thinking about it or keep seeing yourself in the old places in visions or dreams. This means that you are still tied to your past through soul ties, wounds or control and need to be released from it.

Don’t rehearse the past

This one was the biggest one for me. The milk has been spilled, and you can’t get it back. It’s time to get up, clean it up and move on. There is more milk coming, no need to be stuck with the last one.

Sometimes, we are stuck with the past because we believe that these were the best days of our lives and nothing better is coming. But we are moving from glory to glory, not backwards, so even better days are ahead.

And if you can’t move on, it might be because soul ties have been created and they need to be broken – ties will hold you up to people from your past and won’t let you move on until they are cut off. To totally break the ties, you need to cut them off in Jesus’ name but also need to heal yourself so they wouldn’t have any effects on you.

The quickest way to your healing is to acknowledge what happened to you, acknowledge that you are hurt, process it and make a decision that you will heal from it. One thing about a traumatic situation is that it really does affect you, whether you protect your heart or not, and it doesn't leave you the same. And you have to acknowledge that.

The good news is that Jesus is a Healer and Restorer and will bring you out again, but stronger, better, more mature and with greater oil. That’s what He wants to do, but you have to let Him.

Forgive yourself and others

One condition to healing is forgiveness. You have to make a decision to forgive those who hurt you and release them from the guilt. Forgiveness is a decision and not a feeling, so just decide to forgive them and keep reminding yourself that you have forgiven them and let them go until you are no longer hurt by it.

And if you need to, forgive yourself also for not doing what is right, for not knowing better, for failing, not making the right decision or whatever else you feel you have done. Learn to be honest with yourself and take accountability for your actions too. Whatever it was, you need to forgive them and yourself in order to move on.

Sit with Him long enough

And then let Him heal you. One thing about healing is that you have to allow God to go there, and that’s the hard part because you have to live through it again in order to get healed. And sometimes, the pain and hurt are so deep and painful that you don’t want to go there, I know.

This is why you have to sit with Him long enough for Him to gently touch the places and do the surgery that is needed. Sometimes, before the healing takes place, a cut is needed to open the wound, and then God does surgery on the wound and binds it. This is what He wants to do for you, but you have to let Him go there. Don't delay, the longer you wait, the longer the healing will take.

Release the pain so you can move on with your life and let God do what He wants to do in your life. He has wonderful things in store for you and wants to lead you there, but you can’t be stuck in your past. It’s time to let go and move forward!

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